I am going to answer the comments on this post. Chris is right about the man part, however I think that more women are feeling the same way, still we cannot deny that the double standard is very much alive: if a man sleeps around and has tons of women then he is a stud, if a woman does the same she is a slut. As a male, somehow I have the "expectation" of sleep around, as a half Hispanic male my odds of cheating (stereotype-wise) are humongous!

Those "expectations" make me insane! But are real. We grew up on a society that can ties together love and sex, and it disapproves any kind of independence between them. Last week, while reading the Village Voice (for all of you non New Yorkers it is a free newspaper that used to be political but now is dramatically changing for the worse) I found one of my favorite columnists. His name is Dan Savage and he writes a sex advice column that has no boundaries. All topics are open and his answers are always real, even if it is not what we want to read. Anyway, this week's letters were focused on "cuckolds" (if you don't know what it, you might not want to know!). Here's the piece that caught my attention:

"For some folks, sex is about love and pleasure and possession—and there's
nothing necessarily unhealthy about the desire to possess someone. We should all
understand, of course, that we can never truly possess another person, but we shouldn't feel guilty when our hearts or genitals feel a bit differently. Human beings should be rational ("I know I don't own you") about the irrational feelings love inspires ("I own your ass!").

I don't want to hurt the SO, and I know that's what I would do if I bring up the whole "open relationship" issue. Besides, I don't want an open relationship, clearly I have a relationship. All the time I hear and read about domestic violence, scum bags that don't work or guys that don't have any respect for their partners. Maybe those guys don't sleep with anybody else, but is it worth it? It might sound as if I'm trying to justify myself, but I don't think I have to, I should be apologetic, but I'm not. I know the discussion is out of the question, I know I make her happy and I know I don't want to hurt her. Again, I had the opportunities to fuck around very often, but I didn't (even if I don't look like a model I can turn on the charm pretty easily :) ). It is so difficult to explain! Sometimes people want honestly as long as it is what they want to hear, I did the honesty thing once, the answer from that person? "Why did you tell me? i didn't want to know!". Going back to the initial point (I think I had a point somewhere!) : Males are simple creatures, pretty dumb ones by the way, so go easy on us... we might get better, eventually.

Somehow sex became this overcomplicated thing!

When there's a penis inside a vagina the heart doesn't need to be invited...but if it is, you might enjoy it more.

Cheers!

PS... the temperature dropped from 55 degrees to 30 between midnight and noon! I cannot wait for spring!!! I want to see women wearing skirts and sandals, it it too much to ask?